THE BIG O!

Orgasm!

We all know it as cum, climax, peak,apex, and so on. Orgasm is that climax of sexual excitement, characterized by feelings of pleasure centered in the genitals and (in men) experienced as an accompaniment to ejaculation. It's easier to see the physical manifestation of an orgasm in men but in women,it takes a trained eye to actually confirm that a woman has CUM.
Female orgasm is often dismissed as a myth, much like the unicorn or healthy fast food, the female orgasm does in fact exist. It just takes a little skill and effort to make this elusive event appear, but most men (or women) just can't put forth the effort, and so a lot of women FAKE IT. Yes ooooo. They fake it.

I spent five damn years of my life in three different relationships faking the hell out of an orgasm. You needed to see me,squeezing my face like I ate sour okpara, making noise like I was possessed by rascal demons:
      "OH YEAH, FUCK ME!! OH YOU'RE SO GOOD, YOU'RE THE BEST!"
But was I feeling anything? MBA! The only thing I could say I felt was the awareness that something(the penis) was moving in and out of me. But all that blue film ooh and aah calisthenics?  Lai lai. All was fake. And what was my purpose of faking it? Just so that my guy will think himself a sex god. Hahahaha. Eziokwu.

Now,its not that these guys where not doing good in bed oo,each were unique with their own skills. But as I later discovered,their skills were not my thing.

Boyfriend A was not vocal. As in no moans,groans,just silent while staffing,not even when he is cumming(we all know that is where most guys loose control). But no,of a will just keep shut. Okay apart from moaning he never talked while at it. I love my guy telling me sweet things while we strafe.  You know,tell me how good it is,call me sweet names,praise my cookie (How tight/wet it is). I needed to hear these things. Jut hearing them makes me super excited,makes me wet and gunning for more. I would peed for him to just whisper something sweet to me but he no gree,so I neither felt any excitement, nor did I cum.

Boyfriend B tried sha. Hmmmm he tried. Overall,Boyfriend B adored me,he worshipped me and he did well in getting me excited during foreplay. He used his eyes to ravish my body,use his husky voice to whisper delicious words on my ear. But I could not still cum. Why? Because he wasn't hitting my spot.
Now it has been discovered that not all women experience vaginal orgasm. There are four other types of female orgasm:

A. Clitoral Orgasm: the clitoris is that tiny feel good button between the woman's legs.This is the female's most sensitive erogenous zone and generally the primary anatomical source of human female sexual pleasure. During foreplay most guys reach down there and by rubbing or sucking it gently, a woman will feel a heightened sense of sexual pleasure.

B. Vaginal orgasm: this is mostly during penetrative sex. We usually hear of "hitting the G-spot".Studies has shown that there is a tissue that extends women's clitoris into the anterior wall of their vagina. Imagine the clitoris as a long rope which also extends to the inside of the vagina. As sexual intercourse is going on,the tip of the penis will be touching this rope(clitoral tissue),hence vaginal orgasm.Some females clitoral tissue are longer than others. So some women with shorter clitoral tissue may not experience this vaginal orgasm  either because the tip of the penis cannot reach this tissue, or the man's penis is not long enough to touch and stimulate it

C. Blended Orgasm: This is a combination of clittoral and vaginal orgasm. Experts say this is the most powerful finale (it can be twice as strong and intense as either orgasm is by itself).

D. Multiple Orgasm: The average woman is built to cum again and again.Women don't require a refractory period like men do, so we're able to stay aroused for longer and have an orgasm a second and third time with little effort.

So ooooo obviously I am one of those women who just experience clitoral orgasm. Boyfriend B was getting me excited but I was not cumming because he wasn't touching my magic spot.

Boyfriend C needs to go and act porn  abeg. All that fast fast sex is not for me. Spanking, carry leg up,snake in the monkey shadow stuff was not just for me. I love it slow and sensual. But no matter how I tried to adjust the rhythm to my taste, C would always speed up. Boyfriend C hit my spot oo,I had my first orgasm thanks to him but it was after begging him to slow down and I never had multiple orgasms.

 Now what is my point with this my long story? Ladies stop faking orgasms! Don't displease yourself sexually faking it while oga gets what wants how he wants it. Take time to discover what works for you. Mine was vocal exciting slow and sensual sex. Yours might be different. If you like plenty foreplay,tell your man. If you like it rough,fast and furious,tell your man. I don't like receiving head but if u go nuts for it,speak up. Don't just close your mouth and be forming good girl. There is no good girl in bed. Telling him what you want will not make him think you are a slut/a loose girl. If your man thinks so,then I'm sorry it's time to change (yea I said it). Life is too short to be sexually frustrated.

A lot of guys I have spoken with all tell me that they appreciate when their woman tell them what they want sexually. Sisters,explore your body,touch yourself,use a vibratory if possible to discover the technique or rhythm that works for you. It may take some time for you to discover your thing. It may even take your man some time to adjust to your wants but please don't come and go and be sexually incomplete.

Next weekend I will make a post on the different sexual positions that are suitable for obtaining the different types of orgasms. Visit this blog again this Wednesday for our very first relationship post.

Enjoy your weekend!